NOTEPAD No. 32

floral dress

THROWBACK // 

This floral dress, from June of 2017, was one of my favorite outfits from my summer dress series. Look out for my spring series that will start in March!

Question: How do you deal with negative comments?

Answer: I have been very fortunate that most of my readers and followers are incredibly kind, thoughtful people. Here and there I may get a negative comment. I have always tried to spend time responding to and thanking those who leave positive comments. I feel responding only to a negative comment when there are a disproportionate number of positive ones sends a bad message. I typically never delete comments (I have deleted a handful that have either been threatening, or so far off base that they are extremely offensive not only to me, but to my family, friends or fellow readers). As I mentioned, with a very bland negative comment such as ‘I hate that outfit’, I simply scroll on by. If a comment is being critical, yet thoughtful, I do spend time responding as I do think I can grow from feedback that is constructive and do enjoy dialogue with readers even when the conversation is tough. A negative or critical comment can sting – badly – but over time, and as I have matured, I take very few things personally and rather try to see where the reader is coming and how I can grow from the feedback. I try to be extremely mindful when approaching my response to negative comments to respond, not to react (the two are very, very different). Everyone will not like everything that I say or do, so I set realistic expectations for myself. If I need to take a step back, or feel myself getting worked up, I just walk around the block and cool off. I recognize that in putting myself out there I will be exposed to both positive and negative comments (I wish it could all be rainbows and butterflies). While I don’t think anyone on the internet should be subject to cyber bullying or hate speech, negative feedback comes with the territory.

LINK LOVE // 

Loving this floral dress in a vibrant cobalt blue!

“A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.” – Harry Truman

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  • Larissa

    Hi Blair,

    I never comment, but I loved this post and I wanted to say you’ve executed a fair and productive response ‘thought process’ and a lovely mindset in dealing with negativity in your comment section. I admire that.

    Also, you’ve taught me so much about elegance, femininity and style. I’ve learned how to get out of my comfy zone (too frequently included “all black” – which I still love) and incoporate more fun and playful colors, skirts, and accessories that bring a touch of elegance and confidence to my looks. I love your blog and wanted to speak up to thank you, and to let you know that you’ve made a positive impact on me— giving me confidence and I have so much fun with getting dressed bc of your inspiration!

    Have a great day 🙂

    • Blair

      Thank you for such a sweet note Larissa! Thank YOU for following along and commenting! XO BEE

  • Adia

    I have followed you from a distance for years, but in the last few weeks you have opened up more about your journey and I love you even more! You seem so thoughtful, sincere and down to earth (qualities that are not always displayed by big bloggers) and I just had to chime in. I really respect your approach to negative comments, and perhaps that’s why you don’t get too many!

    • Blair

      Thank you so much Adia! XO BEE